Tuesday, April 7, 2015

Title fight

Supervisor, friend, pastor, social worker, associate, father, boyfriend, wife. All these words have one thing in common, they are all titles. 

In life we are all obsessed by titles. They are expected to maintain order and eliminate chaos. A title can decide where you are assigned to sit in the office all the way to who you call in a crisis. But this doesn't mean the title accurately describes the person in the role. Someone may have the title of a supervisor but lacks the experience to supervise , just as a friend may have the title as such but doesn't do the work to be called just that. 

I started thinking about how much weight I put on titles in my life and realized that some people, including myself didn't deserve the title I gave them.  I also realized that some people just want the accolades without doing anything to deserve or keep it. 

So what does this mean? I guess it goes back to that old saying of don't judge a book by its cover. Sometimes before you can decide who's what in your life you have to see them in action  or better yet not in action.