Oh yes I'm the great pretender

I was discussing with one of my friends yesterday the art of pretending……well it wasn’t described so eloquently as that, but it we were discussing pretending.  To me this is an art form that has passed down from generation to generation. From pretending to be another race, as they said back in the day “passing” or putting on a costume at Halloween. We all pretend in some sort of way.  The question is why do we do it?

My friend and I came up with the conclusion that one pretends so they don’t have to show their true colors. We were speaking about a particular person and how they pretend to be so loving, caring, and supportive and giving to others but in actuality they’re really far from such adjectives. She said this person was so far from the martyr they claim to be that that it was sickening. I in turn starting naming all the things this person had done for other people but I was soon reminded on how they only do things for certain people and it was mostly so they could brag about how much they did or get something in return.  Oh and the biggest front of all, they always make the statement that if they didn’t have this or that to do they would do anything for anybody. Crazy thing is when the time comes to step up they’re nowhere to be found.  I realized that yes they were the great pretender!!!!!!

So what does one do with a person with such character? Do you walk away, call them on it, or stay and put up with the unclaimed selfishness.  I find that any other choice then walking away is super exhausting unless you accept that person for who they are. You realize that while the person puts themselves on such a pedestal you don’t have to do the same. You don’t depend on them to do the nice and right thing. You don’t get jealous when they selfishly do for others and you don’t take it personally. You continue to be supportive of that person without looking for anything in return for that’s what the great pretender is unable to do. And you be sure that you don’t become the great pretender yourself. You make sure that everything you do is genuine from the heart and has no ulterior motive. Because to give is to care, to care is to love and that comes with no price and no credit should be expected