Wednesday, December 17, 2014

To cuff or not to cuff

So my friend and I were discussing "cuffing season". Supposedly it's the time when you look for that special someone to couple of with. We argued because we couldn't decide if the winter officially starts the season because it's cold and you need a snuggle buddy. Or if it's after the holidays so you're not obligated to buy any gifts, lol. Regardless of when it is, it still sounds crazy to me. 

To pick a certain time of year to have a significant other instead of having one all year long seems silly. My question in all of this is who do you decide to cuff? What qualities make a good cuffee? Ok enough with that word already. But really what qualities make a good mate. 

I know people who think money makes the man or woman, a cute face, a tiny waist, no kids, no baby mamas, no baby daddy's etc etc etc etc. But what is it that makes someone qualified to be the one?

I truly believe that some people have their minds set on a certain type of individual and discard the rest because they don't fit  their "type". But they forget that their type in more ways then one hasn't been right. They keep choosing the same boy or girl over and over again and end up with just that, a boy or girl. What needs to be sought is a man or a woman. Just in case you missed that believe me there's definitely a difference.

I think it's important to remember to look on the inside of a person. The innards are more important that the outwards. What they bring to the table emotionally and spiritually is greater than anything imaginable. So don't count that someone out because hey don't fit your ideal you just may be missing your blessing. 

2 comments:

  1. Lol... I agree with you! You should want to have a significant other all year round rather than just for one season! I do believe that you can be perfectly happy alone, but if it is your desire to have a meet then you should seek that. I know for myself after getting out of my first long term relationship, I made a list of the qualities that I wanted in a mate and I did not waver on that list. The list was not about physical traits but more so personality and things like that. I agree that your type may not always be best for you, but I always tell my girl friends if you make the list and stick to it, I promise you'll get good results. You may not get that man right away, but when you do it will be well worth the wait!

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  2. How can we win (anothers heart/affections) when we aren't right within. Be true to ourselves-love positivity will exude. Since NO ONE is perfect, our expectation of others need be: are we happy with ourselves with what WEbring to the relationship table and what we EXPECT to receive at the relationship table

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