I give myself away

Last night I was having a convo with one of my friends. We were discussing selflessness. Yea I'm bout to hit yall with a definition lol. Selfless " having or showing great concern for other people and little or no concern for yourself."  

Now when I read this definition I started thinking wait I'm suppose to not think about myself at all. No that's not what selfless means. It doesn't mean to forget about yourself. It means when you do something for someone there should not be an agenda for gratification for your own self.  

Many times I have been around people that do something for others only for the benefit of themselves. That is called selfishness. Whenever you throw yourself into the equation you are doing if for your own benefit. It doesn't matter how much you spend, what you do, what you say , if you are acting with the goal of satisfaction for oneself it negates the act itself. 

So how do we become selfless. First stop tooting your own horn!! It's not about you and shouldn't be about you. Second, remove yourself and just do. No one needs to know what your doing and why your doing it. You don't need accolades. You don't need a trophy. You don't need acknowledgment. Third, don't keep a list of all the things you've done for someone in order to throw it back in their face later. Fourth, be kind be loving be willing and be giving.